Mistaken for love, it wasn’t love
It was a perfect illusion
~Lady Gaga
I’m pretty excited to quote Lady Gaga in my blog post tonight… and I’m also horrified about a recent discovery about (gasp) my perfectionism. My coach pointed it out to me on Friday morning and a few hours after that I ran it by my therapist. I was dumbfounded when he agreed. What? Perfectionist? How? Nooooo. Wait? What? Ummm….
Here’s a bit of the background to catch you up to speed. I’m currently organizing an anger on purpose workshop (more on this amazing opportunity later!). I’ve never done this before. I assume organizing and executing a workshop involves having a badass topic, a date and time, a location, people to sign up and pay me, and supplies, then I need to show up and do the thing. Seems pretty clear cut, right? Except… I don’t have a location. Stay with me, I’m getting to the point of this perfectionism story. I’ve reached out to a few people, asked around, made a couple of calls and still no venue, so all prep work and promotion and planning for this workshop came to a screeching halt.
My coach pointed out that I was allowing the missing venue piece to stop me. This is where the perfectionism comes in. Maybe moving forward with planning this event without a venue is reckless. Maybe my reputation as a legit life coach will take a hit. Maybe I’ll lose clients because they think my proverbial cheese has slid off my cracker. OR Just maybe I’ll have to step up my game and find the damn venue already. Maybe I’ll have to get over my quaking in my boots terror of talking to people about anger. Maybe I’ll have to not stop where I normally would stop and do the workshop that I’ve been talking about and dreaming about for months. Gulp. My perfectionism, my desire to have it all lined up neatly is getting in the way of actually doing the thing!!! Shit.
How many other events, opportunities, possibilities have I let slip by because I didn’t have the perfect shoes, or my promotional materials hadn’t arrived in the mail yet, or my logo wasn’t quite right yet, or yeah… you get the picture!
So the show must go on even without a venue locked down. Planning and promotion of Dirty Girl Coaching’s first anger on purpose workshop is continuing.
So where is perfectionism creating a stop in YOUR life? Are you curious about partnering with a coach and shining a big ass flash light on your shadowy perfectionism and creating a new, exciting possibility for yourself? Of course you are! Reach out! I’d love to chat with you about it!
And finally… my heart is racing as I’m typing this! Are you angry? Have you recently (or not so recently) been dumped by the love of your life? Gotten fired? Are you fed up with our current administration? There’s no anger too big or small for this event! My anger on purpose workshop to be held on February 16, 2019 in the Plattsburgh, NY area will give participants the space to talk about anger, what happens when we express it, what happens when we suppress it. Participants will have opportunities to express anger in safe and creative ways. We’ll create opportunities for completion and forgiveness and each member of the group will be supported to create an action plan to propel their lives forward in a new way.
Sound like something you might like to participate in? Contact me either at dirtygirlcoaching@gmail.com or on the contact form here on my website! Space is limited and pre-registration is required.
Can’t wait to hear from you!!
xoxo Heidi
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